say anything to another person starting with "you .... " will immediately bring up defenses and come off as argumentative and passive aggressive and all kinds of boundary violations going on there. There is no harm in saying what you feel:
"I feel bad about the way we talked last time"
Unless I read this the wrong way, are you being addressed like this by someone?
"You need to..." is one of my favorites. I'm often guilty of it myself when offering advice to others, but recently I've realized how off-putting it can be and have made an attempt to stop phrasing things in that way.
Unless I read this the wrong way, are you being addressed like this by someone?