> Interestingly, I learned how to “tag” memories as authentic (so I could write about them later) which has had interesting implications later on in my life.
I write meeting notes after every meeting, including details on participants disposition, what was discussed, potential misunderstandings, etc. I usually don’t share these.
Anyway, occasionally someone will “bring up” a meeting detail later on and be confused by it. This isn’t malicious, but sometimes it can be so far from what was actually discussed that people question their own memories and something slightly different arises from the ashes. I used to point out what was actually discussed, but I learned that doesn’t usually come across that well (you’re now questioning a teammate’s memory and aptitude, and requires a bit more delicate politics than I care to involve myself with). These days, I just sit back and watch it play out. It’s pretty rare-ish.
This is why the post-meeting recap email can be so valuable. People quickly forget the meeting but have so many remembered that they reconstruct a meeting that never happened.
From experience there's *huge* power in writing the recap. Many people never read it, and of those that do most do not want to get into the hassle of engaging in a did/didn't type of conflict, regardless of whether they were right or wrong.
Do tell.