I started a serious relationship three years ago, and it just ended few weeks ago when my ex cheated on me with one of my friend while I was in an exchange country.
Looking backward, there was a few signs of eventual disaster, but the conclusion was very unexpected (for me, my friends, her friends, and even her family).
However, despite the double betrayal, I think I have learned a lot from the whole experience (including the three years before the break-up). Not simply about relationships, but also about myself. So I kind of agree: if you can have a serious relationship, see it as an occasion to grow up. And if it doesn't work (and it seems that it probably won't, sadly :(), see it as another occasion to grow up. Don't be afraid of an eventual disappointement.
Disclosure: was my first relation. Definitely not an expert.
Looking backward, there was a few signs of eventual disaster, but the conclusion was very unexpected (for me, my friends, her friends, and even her family).
However, despite the double betrayal, I think I have learned a lot from the whole experience (including the three years before the break-up). Not simply about relationships, but also about myself. So I kind of agree: if you can have a serious relationship, see it as an occasion to grow up. And if it doesn't work (and it seems that it probably won't, sadly :(), see it as another occasion to grow up. Don't be afraid of an eventual disappointement.
Disclosure: was my first relation. Definitely not an expert.